Happy Monday Friends! What are you looking forward to this week? I’m looking forward to Wednesday, which is when I’ll be done with class! Yay!!!
Relationship Deal Breakers
I had the most interesting conversation with my friend Joyce yesterday. She had just gone a date, and was giving me a recap. She said it had gone pretty well, until the end, when the guy mentioned that he had a 9 year old kid. Joyce said that the fact that he was already a dad was a relationship deal breaker for her. She told him that she’d be interested in being friends, but wouldn’t want to go on a second date.
I found this to be kind of surprising – after all, I have several friends/acquaintances who have a stepchild from their spouse’s previous relationship. In fact, Joyce has two older half-siblings herself. But she mentioned that was the reason she wanted to stay away from men who already have children – from her experience growing up, it was “too much drama.” On the other hand, she has gone on dates guys with serious health issues or without a job, but to her, those weren’t deal breakers.
Do you have any relationship deal breakers? Religion? Education? Height? Personal hygiene? My friend Maya said that back when she was dating, hers was drug usage. Are any of your deal breakers more on the shallow-side? Have your deal breakers changed as you’ve gotten older?
Thinking back to when Chris and I first started dating, I remember asking him if he wanted kids one day. And if he didn’t, that would be a deal breaker to me, since having kids is very important to me (despite me panicking sometimes about timing and when we’re ready) haha.
Do you find that your relationship deal breakers change depending on what stage of the relationship you’re in? Maybe it’s easier to write someone off based on one defining factor on a first date, like if he smelled bad, haha. But if your serious boyfriend showed up to dinner smelling bad, you probably just make him shower. (And not immediately dump him).
I’d love to hear your thoughts!
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